We go back a long way. When our children were very small we spent a few summers together at Sunnyfield Swim Club in Caldwell. Our paths crossed many times over the years and our friendship remained steady. However, after Joel, her beloved husband passed away I was able to help her over some of the rough spots and we realized we had a lot in common and became close friends.

We spoke on the phone almost every day. Her hello to me was “tis I” with a lilt in her voice that was always cheerful. We talked for an hour at a time with subjects ranging from the state of our health to ways to enhance our synagogue. We worked on many committees together. The two major ones were Project Return (a huge success) and Synagogue Beautification. Working with Lil was always a pleasure. No matter what we worked on, she was a true professional. Her suggestions and total commitment to the project at hand always made it a success.
Most often when Lil and I sat together at Services we would whipsper our thoughts on how to enhance the Bimah. Some of our ideas were to adjust the Ner Tamid, improve the flower arrangements, and raise the Torahs so that when the Ark was open it can be seen from all positions in the sanctuary. Lil was a major part of the Beth Ahm Beautification Committee and was instrumental in getting an excellent craftsman who was able to make our ideas come to life.